We mistakenly think that when we are in a relationship we must win every battle. Difficult is being so independent in the world and also being submissive to our significant other. This is going to be the weirdest advice you ever hear, but women, you have got to let a man be a man---men, you have got to let us be women.
Back in the good ole days, women took care of the house and men brought home the beef. --Yes, I know it’s bacon, but i don’t like BACON. Besides, beef has more value than bacon…who wants a slice of bacon instead of a nice, medium rare rib-eye? Not I! -- The divorce rate was so low because we knew our roles and fulfilled our obligations.
I have taken the male role in many areas of my life. I am a single mother to four, have always been the breadwinner, never received child support for the first three--10 years after my divorce, I found myself still a single mother, but now to four children. Hell, I even joined the Army and served my country in a war zone! I’ve drank more than I care to admit and need more than one hand to count how many times I have regretted the night before. Maybe it is time for me to fill the role that I was born with…the role of the female.
Somewhere between the "good ole" days and the women's liberation movement, we screwed ourselves. Not only are we still the housekeeper, we are the nanny to our children, we are the errand runner for the household, the family accountant, all while holding down a 40+ hour a week job---AND expected to hand over our measly check to help with the bills! It is even proven that we don’t make as much as our male counterparts…in the same job position!
Why have we began seeing man as the enemy. Why? When all of this began because WE wanted a change. Man has been doing the same thing they have always done. They are going to work and coming home to dinner, day after day. Some weekends, they get to go fishing with old drinking buddies, then back to working and coming home to dinner. We asked for the extra responsibilities, they gave us what we asked for.
Somehow, we have got to get back to “the good ole days”. We must learn to swallow our pride and bite our tongue at the same time. We can't always be so quick to use our words as a weapon---and we can’t always be so quick to ask for something that we can’t handle.
This might just be the answer to our national crisis (sorry, I always have to be a tad too dramatic)…our national divorce crisis.
Sometimes I am just too genius for my own good!
Hello Katrina,
ReplyDeleteThis is a great post!!! and this sentence is such a truth but people don't understand it sometimes.The advice here must be known and many divorces could be avoid, many children will have this chance to live with their both parents.
GREAT post.
Jean-Paul